I cried all the way home. My daughter and her best friend had a falling out. I thought it was a misunderstanding and quickly resolved but it turned out it wasn’t. My daughter came home and drew an elaborate picture, put a real stamp on it, and as a second thought, included her beautiful pink unicorn Valentine. As we got out of the car she said, “If I give this to Danielle, she might want to be my friend again.”
I was shocked because I figured all that was over with. Little girls can be so fickle – I remember my tiffs – but I remember the loneliness more.
I never cared about being popular so I never had a big crowd I attached myself to. My mom encouraged me to branch out and have more than one friend. “What if she’s absent?” she would try and reason to me. It didn’t matter. I wanted my one friend and I wanted her to myself. I can remember my best friends all the way since kindergarten.
K – Jennifer. She had cornsilk hair and blue eyes. She moved away.
1 – Kristie. But she had her own best friend already, Davina. Davina was a Jehovah’s Witness.
2 -Megan McBroom. She was already bulimic in the second grade.
3- Still Megan. (We moved – no more Megan)
4- I won’t write her name because it’s very unusual. I don’t want her to do a web search and find my blog.
5 – Pam. Her father was a pastor. Half Asian, half Caucasian, she was my brother’s first crush. She looks remarkably like his fiancee. (Both of us moved away – her to Lake Tahoe and me deeper in the Valley)
6 – Monique (She moved) and Erin (mom married money, she dropped me for a more popular crowd)
7 – Jennie (She moved)
8- Marissa (Also dropped me for a more popular crowd)
High school brought lots of different friends; I think I could probably pick a favorite but it’s not worth it. I am still close to my 6th grade friend – we were maids of honors in each others weddings. Proverbs 17:17 says “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.” Makes you wonder, if there is a real falling out, were you ever friends?
It’s like that age old question, “Can someone lose their salvation?” The answer I hear most often is, “Well, she was probably never saved in the first place.” If someone doesn’t love at all times, or drops us for a more popular crowd, were they ever friends? What I never knew then, but I know now, is that real friends are really hard to find and I protect them fiercely now.
Well, the Bible doesn’t lie, so I can’t say – but it really felt like love to be with those girls. We cared for each other, listened to each other and had a lot of fun with each other. We were friends even if we aren’t anymore. I got a facebook friend request from Marissa about a month ago. I almost emailed her back, “Are you kidding?” It took three weeks for me to say “yes” because I decided Jesus would accept anyone’s friendship. She posted a really friendly birthday message for me, which I ignored. I mean, you can only be so Christlike, right?